Are You Ready To Level Up?
- Aimee
- Sep 12, 2024
- 4 min read
When a client believes they have no choice in a situation, they can become desperate. In the case of people who have left abusive relationships, feeling desperate can mean restarting the relationship or getting into a similar unhealthy one, using drink or drugs to numb themselves, or isolating themselves, as they don’t know how to move forward alone, or are too scared to do so.
Are you ready to make a change but you need a helping hand? Someone with experience and the knowledge, who can understand you and guide you to overcome the anxiety, confusion and depression caused by your ex?
One of the key roles of my coaching is to raise my clients’ awareness, so they learn that they do have a choice.
The moment when you realise that it’s entirely up to you what you do next, is empowering and freeing! For some, it can also be overwhelming and you might find yourself feeling lost and in need of guidance.
I support clients to make changes that lead to a healthy life. Lasting change comes from within and it’s up to you to be committed to bettering your life.
It can be easier to focus on one part of your life first, that you most want to prioritise and change. We start out by using a Wheel of Life, to look at different areas of your life (e.g.: relationships, work, your values, family), then you can determine which area you want to work on first.
Quite often, my clients want to work on areas such as increasing their self-esteem, improving their confidence, meeting new people, and becoming more independent but the choice is yours!
Working through the following areas, means you can recognise what needs to change in each, to create the new life that you’re dreaming of:
Environment:
Sometimes, simply changing your surroundings is the first step. Who do you surround yourself with? Are they a positive influence? Do they add value to your life? Do you really still need to keep hold of your skanky ex’s jumper?? (The answer is no). What do you need to remove, that doesn’t compliment your new dream life?
Behaviour:
So, you want to feel like the old you? The one who was confident and fun loving? The person you were before the ex damaged you and led you to believe that you’re worthless and no one will ever love you, or find you attractive again? (That’s all crap). It’s time to create new habits! Ones of your choice, that you believe will help you and that create the steps towards becoming who you want to feel, how you want to act and who you want to see in the mirror.
Capability:
You might not feel capable of change right now but only because your mind, confidence and soul have been pummelled by derogatory comments, humiliation and manipulative tactics. I’ve been there and got the t-shirt. I’ve learnt to overcome the negative thoughts, recreated my life and I believe in me again! Now, I’m a qualified trauma-informed coach and have a variety of mental health certifications, so I have the experience and knowledge to make you feel more capable of change. I use coaching tools to help you, so you move forward more easily and feel less alone along the journey.
Beliefs:
I use techniques to learn your limiting beliefs, and then find their root cause, so I can help you to understand where the belief has stemmed from. Once you recognise the belief as negative or limiting, you can understand how it’s been holding you back and why it isn’t necessarily true! You may have beliefs like “I could never do that” and “I’m not confident enough” that have grown inside you, instigated by your ex. Once you’ve allowed this to sink in, you can conquer your thoughts and rework them, so they don’t have power over your life anymore.
Values:
Values are the key principles that are important to us, such as wanting (and showing) honesty, respect and support in a relationship. By helping you to recognise your values, means you can create boundaries that align, and start to live a life on your terms. This includes not accepting people into your life who don’t respect your boundaries and who don’t align with your values (all eyes on the narcissistic ex).
Identity:
Do you know who you are? Who do you dream to be? Do you want to take the old parts of you and build them into a stronger, wiser, more confident, new you? One who has values and boundaries and lives a dream life?
Do you recognise yourself in the above?
Are you ready to take that important next step to shed the old you and overcome trauma? To learn to respect yourself and know your self-worth?
Book a free discovery call to get started on creating your dream life:
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I'm Aimee, a #MentalWellbeingCoach specialising in supporting females who are recovering from #DomesticAbuse.
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