Recognising Narcissist Red Flags.

Recognise the negative traits of a narcissist AKA 'red flags'.

🚩Excessive Charm and Flattery (Known as #LoveBombing): At the beginning of a relationship, narcissists often use charm and flattery to win you over. They might shower you with compliments and attention, making you feel special.

🚩Constant Need for Admiration: Narcissists seek constant validation and admiration. They resent not being the centre of attention. They might continuously talk about their achievements and talents, while blowing them out of proportion.

🚩Lack of Empathy: They show little interest in your feelings or needs. Narcissists often seem unable or unwilling to understand or care about how their actions affect you or others. Rather than apologise for upsetting you, they put it onto you by saying things like "You're so sensitive", "You're so insecure", or "I didn't say that". Over time, this can make you doubt yourself and question whether you are being over-sensitive, which can result in the narcissist getting away with more or worse behaviour, because you try to put up with it, rather than be deemed over-sensitive or insecure. Ironically, it is their behaviour that will make you feel insecure.

🚩Grandiose Sense of Self: They exhibit an inflated sense of their own importance and believe they are superior to others. They may talk about their talents, intelligence, or achievements excessively - many of these are lies or fabricated versions of the truth..

🚩#Entitlement: Narcissists believe they deserve special treatment and expect others to comply with their wishes and demands without question.

🚩#Manipulation and Exploitation: They use others to achieve their own goals, often without regard for the other person’s wellbeing. They may guilt trip, lie, or use other manipulative tactics, like gas lighting.

🚩#Arrogance and Superiority: They display arrogant "full of themself" attitudes and behaviours, like looking down on others and acting as though they are always right. They may ignore rules, show immoral behaviour, act irresponsibly or illegally as they believe they are above the law. They could drink drive and take drugs, believing the law doesn't apply to them or they'll never get caught.

🚩Lack of Accountability: Narcissists rarely take responsibility for their actions. They blame others for their mistakes or make excuses, they hardly ever admit when they are wrong and rarely apologise. Instead, they'll push the blame onto you by confusing you, gaslighting you or pretending they only did XYZ "because you upset" them etc etc.

🚩#Envy and Jealousy: They are often envious of others' successes and may belittle or undermine those they perceive as a threat to their own superiority.

🚩Unstable Relationships: Narcissists tend to have a pattern of chaotic relationships characterised by a cycle of idealisation, for instance, he might say you are the love of his life or soul mate, which eventually leads to devaluation when you put boundaries in place, or leave them. They might initially idolise you, but share vicious lies when you leave or dump them. They attempt to make people believe that you are abusive and he left you, by him spreading rumours about you and creating his own fake narrative, which further adds to his fake "victim story" that he tells his next victims.

🚩#Gaslighting: They may manipulate you into doubting your own perceptions, memories, and sanity, making you question your reality.

🚩Inability to Handle Criticism: Narcissists often react negatively to criticism, becoming defensive, angry, or dismissive. They might lash out or attempt to discredit the person who they perceive to have spoken negatively to them, or about them.

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