Once Bitten, Twice Shy, Third Time A Fool
- Aimee
- Jul 11, 2024
- 2 min read
Not everyone knows how to recognise a narcissist's red flags but once you know and have been bitten, it's up to you to break the cycle.
They're not going to change, so don't expect to be treated any differently if you go back to them, or if you let them come skulking back pretending to be "sorry" (they never apologise, so don't waste your time waiting).
You're just as accountable for how you are made to feel, so it's on you to be selective about who you allow into your life and who to choose to be surrounded by.
The longer you put up with narcissistic ways of manipulation, coercive control, gaslighting, love bombing etc then the longer you're allowing it to happen and the longer it'll take to recover.
Some of you may be saying "it isn't that easy" and you're right. When you're in the depths of being manipulated, controlled and threatened, it is hard to leave but with support you can. Or, if you have your own place, wait for them to go out on whatever alcohol/ drug/ sympathy binging mission they've gone on and pack their bags, throw them outside and change the locks.
Once you've ditched the gutter rat, take time to do whatever it takes to make you feel YOU again, and for however long it takes.
Getting support will help to make the process that bit easier too.
It's your life and you're in charge of creating your own happiness, not other people. So, if you keep allowing someone into your life, whether they're a narc or just a negative nelly, consider- Do they better your life? Do they add value? Do they energise you or are they an energy sucking vampire, leaving you drained and losing your sparkle?
If that's the case, get rid. I did, and I'm so much better off for it 🤷🏻♀️
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